There are a lot of things about being a new mum that can be incredibly difficult. Sure, being a mum is one of the best, most wonderful, and most rewarding things that you can possibly do with your life, but that doesn’t mean that it’s not sometimes hard. Really hard. The truth is that it can be seriously challenging and stressful a lot of the time and one of the things that tends to make that feeling a whole lot worse is the fact that a lot of people tend to give themselves a seriously hard time over it. New mums put huge amounts of pressure on themselves as if they need to be perfect at all times and never make any mistakes. However, the truth is the all new parents make mistakes and trying to be perfect is just going to leave you frustrated and exhausted. With that in mind, here are some things to remember to make sure that you don’t end up giving yourself an incredibly hard time as a parent.
There’s nothing wrong with you if you can’t breastfeed
There is a huge amount of pressure on new mum’s to be able to breastfeed perfectly and for as long as possible. And sure, there’s no denying that breastfeeding is often the best thing for both you and your baby. However, if you’re not able to breastfeed, that doesn’t mean that there’s something wrong with you or that you’ve somehow failed as a parent. There are plenty of reasons why many new mums can’t or don’t breastfeed. Whether you’re not able to produce enough milk, it’s simply too painful, or you have to go back to work sooner than you would like. All of these reasons are totally valid. And it’s crucial to remember that formula has all of the nutrients that your baby needs and they’re not going to be at any kind of disadvantage because of it. Brands like S 26 Bubbahood have everything your baby needs and will help them grow up just as healthy and happy as if they were breastfed. You haven’t failed because you’re not breastfeeding.
You don’t need to do it all alone
There’s a strange attitude that a lot of people have in modern society that we should all be able to do everything by ourselves and should never have to ask for help for anyone. This is especially strange when it comes to raising a new baby since, historically, there are many societies that have always had entire groups of people coming together to help new mothers. If you’ve got friends and family around you, there’s nothing wrong with asking them for help. Whether you need an extra pair of hands or even if you just need to take a night off because you’re going crazy having no one to talk to but your baby, it is completely okay to reach out and ask the people around you for support. No one is meant to handle things totally by themselves and trying to force yourself to is just going to make your life harder than it needs to be.
You don’t have to look perfect
It’s bizarre that we have this expectation of new mums that they are somehow supposed to look fantastic right after giving birth. We see these images online and in magazines of celebrity mums whose bodies bounced back instantly and the truth is that’s just not realistic. Your body is going to need time to recover and expecting yourself to look amazing right after giving birth is just going to make you miserable. Not to mention, there’s nothing wrong with having priorities other than the way you look right after giving birth. After all, there’s something else that’s very likely going to taking up most of your attention for a while.
The most important thing to remember is that it’s okay if you’re not happy all of the time. The truth is that being a parent can be a lot of hard, exhausting, and often thankless work and there’s no reason why you should be expected to feel good about that every minute of every day. The important thing is to acknowledge and process those feelings and no try to ignore them. being able to think about how you’re feeling and understand it is going to make working through those feelings a whole lot easier. And eventually, when you inevitably get past them, it’s going to be a whole lot easier to remember just why being a new mum is such a wonderful and rewarding experience.
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